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*rgyle
writes:I'd like some tips for persuading my partner to do more housework. I work full time and he is at home with our son. The only chore he has agreed to do apart from childcare while I'm out is washing. But in practice he doesnt do it and we have mountains of washing, and nothing to wear! I do all the rest of the cooking and cleaning and most of the childcare, which is possible because I work from home a lot. The trouble is, I've tried a few approaches - no luck. I've asked for help. Tried to get us up doing housework together. Tried leaving it, till he takes over. He doesnt... But he reacts with anger and shouts at any attempt to get him doing chores. If I don't do them he gets angry and shouts at me because the place is a mess. I just can't seem to stand up to the shouting for long enough and eventually cave in every time.I need to find a constructive way to do something, because I am becoming more and more resentful. And that's not healthy. I need constructive tips. He's not an idiot, he's not a bastard. he's a bit lazy. he's perhaps got a warped idea of what his day should be like, he might be a bit defensive and he definitely shouts too much. But his heart's in the right place. But how do I reach it ;-)? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Treat him nice and treat him good and he would respond back in kind.
Walk that extra mile for him and he will not forget your good deeds.
Humans respond better through kindness and good deeds.
Praise him , praise him and don't criticize or complain if he does not come up to your standards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): Do you want to live with a child? Thats what it seems like. My dad and grandad both hep with housework, I cannot understand men that do not help. Its all too do with respect.
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