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*weetjen
writes:My hubby recently told me he likes to look at other womens bodys and prettiness when he is with his friends they stare at girls and comment and when with me i see hem look at women also what should i do and how should i feel (confused here) Reply to this Question
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reader, lovelyone3 +, writes (30 June 2010):
 That used to bother me years ago when my boyfriends would check out other girls. But now that I'm older, I realize that it's just human nature for males AND females to look at attractive "stuff" whether it's the opposite sex, the same sex (though men don't seem to admit it whereas us women will say things like, "OMG she's gorgeous!" but he'll never say "Damn! That guy's body is amazing!"); both sexes like to see amazing houses, cars, cool views (mountains, beaches, cities), clothes and shoes, etc. etc. As long as your husband is respectful about it, it's pretty normal for men and women. Now, if he's disrespectful about it - turn the tables and start seeing how he likes it!
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reader, Sweetjen +, writes (24 June 2010):
Sweetjen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thanks alot ur answer does make me think and makes i saw it the way u said it maybe i needed to hear from someone else so i can see it in a different view! Thanks
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (24 June 2010):
Well, as human beings we can´t help being interested in the opposite sex (or the same sex, whatever floats your boat), whether we´re single or taken.
But there's a line.
You need to define that line for you both, so you're on the same wavelength.
For me, I don't mind him looking at other women, as long as he isn't obvious about it. I don't want him to openly stare or comment about how hot she is (or anything else that sounds sexual in any way) when I'm walking next to him.
Also, I'm fine with him liking a certain actress or model. But again, I don't want to hear about it all the time. But sure, we all appreciate beauty, don't we? When I see a gorgeous girl and I'm walking with my boyfriend, it isn't unlikely for me to say "wow, she's pretty" or "she has great eyes." Nothing weird about that. I will say the same about guys. Sometimes it's not even about their good looks. Some people just look special. They have a kind face, infectuous laugh, etc. "That guy seems to be an upbeat person, he always smiles!"
I've always appreciated beauty in other people (boy and girl) and I always make it clear from the start that this is the way I am and that I don't mean anything by it. In the end, it's my boyfriend who I love and if he's interacting with me in any way, he's got my undivided attention, I don't care if a armani model just walked past. I think that's the difference.
As long as he shows you affection and love and gives his undivided attention to you when you are talking with him, I don't think you should worry. However, if you catch him turning around a lot to look at girls while he should be looking at you, you could have a problem.
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