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writes: Please advice -My partner is keeping secrets from me, and I need to know - does not matter how bad.Forgiveness will be given because we have a connection. Reply to this Question
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reader, pica +, writes (10 August 2006):
Odd to ask the question if you're also saying you'll forgive anyway. Sounds like you two need to talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): Sorry...needed to read who posted.
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reader, Minxy +, writes (9 August 2006):
 It depends what secrets she's keeping from you? Everybody needs to keep a little slice of thier selves for themselves. But in a relationship, especially where infidelity is concerned, secrets can be extremely damaging!I'm glad you will forgive her, but dont detriment yourself or your standards in doing so. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect. Including you!Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): There should be no secrets between two involved and commited people.
Of course, there may be other reasons here.
Maybe he isn't keeping secrets from you and maybe you are wanting him to answer some of your questions a certain way and if he doesn't then he is lying to you or hiding things from you so regardless if he is telling you the truth...you see what you want to see.
There isn't much to go on here.
If there are trust issues then you both need to go to counselling to address this and any other issues that go from lying to the self or to another.
Work them out.
Or you endure the so called lies and secrets and keep forgiving him as you are a martyr and you think this is best for everyone involved.
Or you decide you cannot be with someone who can keep secrets and therefore lies...omissions and half truths are STILL lies...and you take a walk and move on without him.
Your choice.
You love him and want to be with him and if he does in fact keep secrets from you...seek out counselling.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): How do you expect us to help you with hardly a thing to go on mate??!! Secrets are not good to keep between partners, if he truly loved you he wouldn't have any 'secrets'.
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (9 August 2006):
 It depends on various things, the severity of the secret, etc.
Without more details, I cannot try to give suitable advice.
You can forgive so much, but do not let your forgiveness consume your pride.
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