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writes:I have put up with my husbands abuse for too many years and have asked him to leave. Now he is refusing and seems hellbent to bring me down to his level by psycological tactics eg starting arguments before I go to work being rude to my friends etc...I would love to hear how other women have overcome this.Sad Sally Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): My mom involved the authorities. She took him to family court about the abuse. She slept at a shelter one night but wouldn't do it again. She found the place deplorable. Then she lived with a female friend. Then my dad moved out.
An abusive husband belittles you and micromanages you to the point that they seem to own you. They end up sabotaging your independence. It leaves psychological scars.
Contact social agencies in your area. See a lawyer.
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reader, Felisha Marie  +, writes (10 August 2009):
 Overcoming abuse? Over-riding their stupidity. You have to hold your head high and remind yourself that your are a strong independent woman, and nobody should be treated that way. Especially if they're supposed to be in love. If you've had failed attempts getting him to leave, then contacting the authorities is a very good idea.
Good Luck and God Bless.
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 August 2009):
 You may need to involve the authorities to have him removed from the home. Let me ask you something. Where in marriage law or in the definition of love does it say it's okay to abuse the person you claim to love? I've finally found the girl I plan to marry, and making her feel bad is not even a consideration.
I believe in your country you have options when abuse is involved. I'd contact someone in government, domestic violence advocate, or abuse hot line and find out what your options are under the circumstances you are in.
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