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writes:There's a possibility that I could be pregnant. The father of the child is a friend of mine who when I first met a few months ago, I really liked, but then we decided to just have casual sex- no labels, no commitment. We became good friends and we intend on being good friends after it all ended. We're fine, but I'm so so worried about being pregnant. How would I tell him? I'm not in a position to have a child and although he'd be more capable, financially, he has never wanted children. What would I say to him? Would it be inappropriate to ask him to come with me to England to get an abortion? I'm not saying anything until I'm sure, but things aren't looking great so far and I really want to know that I'd be able to handle telling him and asking for some support from him.
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reader, Honest Answer  +, writes (12 February 2012):
 First off, instead of worring yourself sick (and possibly for no reason at all), you need to go to the clinic and have a blood test or at the very least, a home-pregnancy test.
The moment he had sex with you, he ran the risk that you could get pregnant. And if you are indeed pregnant, this shouldn't be a issue that you have to bear alone.
If you are pregnant, send him a "Father's Day Card." Hopfully he will get the hint.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (12 February 2012):
 Did you miss a period?? How do you know you could be pregnant?
First and foremost, take a pregnancy test before you start getting ahead of yourself here. Go to your GP to get a blood test for further confirmation.
If you are indeed pregnant, then call your FWB to have him meet you in person, show him the test. Are you so sure he's definite on not having children? You're absolutely positive you want an abortion? Discuss options.
You can ask him to accompany you to an abortion, but he's not a boyfriend so I wouldn't expect him to agree to go. However, if he is your good friend then he should be there for moral support.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (12 February 2012):
 Well, he'll have to know sooner or later, so you have npo choice but to bite the bullet, have you? As for asking him to go with you to England to get an abortion, well, you could, but if he doesn't want to, you'll have to go by yourself.
Sorry this is such a difficult situation to be in......
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