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*izz.butterflies
writes:Hey everyone.I am back in my country after a 2 years break. In that other country I was,I made tons of friends and had the time of my life. Now that I'm back,I am facing a lot of difficulties.One of those is New Friendships.I'm a really energetic,spontaneous person.My friends always told me they have the best time with me. I can be a party animal,and at the same time I can give the best advice to people.However,I feel that since I'm so all over the place,I can't really click with anyone over here. In the country I was before,I didn't hang out with people of my nationality.Truth is I find them a tad boring. I had english,american,canadian and african friends.It took me a lot of time to accept the new reality,and the new reality is I have to find friends of my nationality.I don't know how to go about this. I signed up at a gym near my apartment,it's a Ladies Only...I met a girl and spent some time with her but she lives with her boyfriend and has classes until 9 pm so it's very hard to hang out with her. I tried spotting some interesting girls at the gym....No results.Some of you will say I can find friends at my college.Well...I am 2 years older than the girls in my classes.It's not about age though.It's about their behavior.Most of them are daddy's girls and have had no expierence in their life.(I lived in a lot of countries etc)I'm just losing patience! It's been almost a year since I've moved back and havent found any girls to kick it with! I miss all my friends from the other country,i miss how my place was always full of people.What can I do? How do I initiate a friendship? I know it sounds dumb,especially when I've had so many friends before but I'm fed up!P.S I live in a european country Reply to this Question
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reader, strnbelle +, writes (17 March 2010):
I’m sure you are a great, fun person but your attitude towards people of your nationality is very negative. Lets face it, no one likes hanging out with a “Debbie downer.” You should try being less judgmental and friendly. Also, everyone loves a compliment and they can also be great conversation starters. Ex. I love your shoes can turn into a great chat about favorite local shops and who knows, maybe a friendship. Good luck.
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