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writes:ive been seeing a girl at uni for the past 10 months, id just come out of a bad relationship with a guy who was a real idoit and she was there so me. i love her and the sex is amazing, but now she wants to meet my family, who think im straight and because she has a unisex name, think she's a guy. Im bi-sexual and have been since i was 14, and only my twin knows but i have no idea how to tell my parents. ive meet her family and they're really supportive of her and her choice but my parents will hate it and most likely dis-own me. If any one has any advice on telling them, thanks in advance. Reply to this Question |
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reader, sweetnsoursauce  +, writes (15 October 2007):
 If your parents care about you, they will be ok with the fact that you're bisexual. There's nothing wrong with it. They should realize this and support you. If this woman makes you happy, then they should be glad you're happy. Maybe you should tell your mom first, who will probably be more understanding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): Well, best not to tell them you are bisexual though, they will be more understanding I think if you tell them that you are in love with someone and that person means alot to you, but that person is another woman. Normally, people feel it is easier to tell their mum and then their mum tells their dad! Miss C's advice is good - the longer you leave it, the harder it will be. If you are secure and happy, that is the most important thing. I would suggest not yet going down the 'I'm gay' route. I know people may disagree, but in my experience, if you state that you are in love with another woman, avoiding the whole 'lesbian/bi-sexual' conversation, it will be easier for them to take on board at this stage. Of course, they will come to terms with it as they have no choice, you must be happy with your life and their acceptance is importance, but it should not affect the personal choices you make. Best of luck, your parents love you and will accept this in time XX
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reader, Miss C  +, writes (14 October 2007):
 There's no real easy way to tell your parents I'm afraid. All you can do is explain to them that you're bi sexual, you are in love with this girl and she makes you really happy. If your parents are unsupportive of your personal choices then all you can do is give them time and space to come to terms with it. Your twin (if he/she is supportive) may be able to help your parents look at it in a different light and may help them to accept all of it if they're fidning it difficult. If your parents don't support you then that indicates signs of bad parenting because in no circumstances should parents ever disown their children. They do not have to agree with your choices but they should accept them as a fact of life and support you through thick and thin. One thing is for sure though, you have to tell them as soon as possible. Hiding this from them even longer may mean their reaction to the news will be much worse. Best of luck! I hope everything works out for you. Miss C xx
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