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writes:Hi, I'm looking for a bit of advice. There's a girl at work who has caught my eye (on many occasions!) but there's a few problems.- I'm not exactly god's gift in terms of looks and I haven't exactly had much luck when it comes to dating!- She doesn't work in the same office as me, so it's quite rare for me to see her - more likely to speak to her over the phone. In fact there's been about 3-4 times this year that I've met her.- And with the above point, even when we do happen to meet (usually with others) I can't say that we chatted much.The recent weeks I have been more and more tempted to ask her out for a drink or something via work email. Although email might not seem the best way to do it, it'd be quite difficult to call her (open plan offices) and the fact we're in different offices.I'm also unsure of her status. But I have recently been chatting via a few emails to one of her work collegues and was very tempted to find out her status through her. But I'm reluctant to do this as I'm not sure I want to drag someone else into it and (with it being open plan offices) the email to turn into a bit of a laugh between them all!Hopefully the above doesn't seem too garbled :) I'd appreciate any help or pointers. I may have missed bits out but if I think of anything I'll add it on!Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): Ah, I did forget to mention. She does know me, she's a couple years younger than me and is definately not married :) We have chatted on a few occasions just not one-to-one much.It turns out there is an upcoming night out that we're both going to, maybe that's my best chance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): Nah it doesn't seem garbled =P I'm vague with some of my answers sometimes...
Your right. It could easily turn into a laugh, particularly with two girls - sexist comment I know.
I'd try and talk to her amicably first. You know just, as you would start a friendship. Then when it gets a certain point, as in you know each other a bit better ask her out. Its more likely she'll say yes then.
You could just go up to her but since she rarely knows you, its unlikely she'll be jumping up and down about it. Unless of course you make that first brilliant impression.
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