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41-50,
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writes:Ok here goes i wrote up quite a while ago sometime back in August regarding me feeling extremely sad and helpless when i'm away from my husband andit was making it so i couldn't enjoy going to work or anything. Well you were right it did wear off once i went back in september, problem is its started again. I really don't understand it i've never ad this problem before now, i've spent loads of time away from him and we regularly do things on our own and although i miss him its never been like this. I'm basically back to square one, i just want to cry when i'm not with him and the other night even though he was there cuddled up to me in bed from behind i started crying because i felt so emotional and couldn't stop it. I just passed it off that i had been abit stressed at work. Now every year i go on this trip(i'm a teacher if you can't remember my last post) that lasts for 5 days(4 nights) and i've always been fine, rung him 3 times whilst there and then again although i've missed him i haven't gotten like this. I did wonder if it was the fact i'm going to be away from him that its brought it on again but how can i get past it? I seriously don't think i'm going to get through this trip i just don't know what to do! I hate this is there anything i can do to get rid of these feelings and to get through that trip because i just don't know what to do. I haven't told him about this because i don't know what can be done. is there anything we could both do to sort this out? Please help sorry theres a lot of questions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): I'd suggest the first thing to do is to tell your husband how you're feeling and be honest with him about it. If he's the sort of bloke that I think he is he'll reassure you and offer his support.
If you pass off a crying fit as 'stress at work' when in fact it's something completely different, he's never going to know what the problem is.
It puzzles me why women do this.
Him: "What's wrong?"
Her: "Nothing."
Him: "Are you sure? You don't look ok to me."
Her: "Everything's fine, (sob! sob!) nothing's wrong, (sob!) now go to sleep.(sob! sob!)"
Him: "Come on, what's wrong?"
Her: "If you don't know now, you never will!"
Confide in him. Communicate. When all is said and done, 5 days and 4 nights isn't very long at all, and in future years it will probably feel like a welcome break from him!
Phil
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