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writes:I've had a few arguements with my friends before (we're over them now though) which they have always started. They do things that they no will end up making me really upset, or be hypercritical - which is one of the things I don't like. However I always end up apoligizing (when I haven't done anything)them before they do, sometimes they never do. I try not to insult anyone in arguments as it causes more trouble, but I can hardly stand up for myself unless I am REALLY angry. Sometimes in an argument I have to make myself angrier in order to "scare" the other person. I regret this later though haha. Do you have any tips on how to get the other person to apologize or on how to stand up for myself? Also on how to not let things get under my skin. Thanks in advanced! :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): You could write them a letter about how you truly feel.x
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reader, blacktimestwo +, writes (4 May 2009):
Make new friends.
You'll probably disgard this advice straight away, but it sounds like they are bullying you. I had friends just like this, and it wasn't until I made new friends that I realised the old ones had been bullying me. At the time I really thought they were my friends. You shouldn't have to be asking this question if they really are your friends.
If you're at school try talking to someone that you've never really spoken to, maybe someone shy. Or spend more time with a friend who doesn't intimidate you. No need to cut the old friends out altogether, but having someone else will mean that they won't get under your skin as much because it won't matter as much to you.
If they are being hypercritical just smile and shrug. It truly doesn't matter what they think.
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