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36-40,
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writes:My bf has this job which is pretty intense and the training is very hard. He is struggling and doubts he will pass his exams. I've done the standard "you'll be fine" prep talk, but it doesn't wash. What can I do to make him feel more positive? I need to help him before he loses all motivation to try.
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reader, spinnaker  +, writes (27 May 2011):
 I come to the conclusion that your BF has only been at his job for less than a year?IF so in 6 months he will look back on this moment and wonder why he got so worked up in the first place. Experience is the best teacher. He will learn the ropes so long as he shows up, does his job and accepts the discipline that will come from the mistakes he is inevitably going to make. The key to all of that is him accepting the fact that he will botch up. You can not be the barometer for his confidence in this matter as it is purely internal. You can support him by being the best girl you can be to him. If he deals with work all day the last thing any guy wants to do is talk about it at night - plan a little escape for him and express to him your confidence in his abilities. What he does with all of that is up to him but that is the most you can do. Trust me, from experience, it makes a world of difference as a guy when I look into my lady's loving eyes and see that she really does believe I can accomplish something. The above is the most of what you can do and it is vastly imp0ortant. What your man does with that is up to him.
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