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writes:I've only been with my boyfriend for 3 months but we have sex and i told him that i like to be spanked. the truth is that i don't actually like it, i just want him to dominate me. when he spanks me it really hurts and i want him to stop but when i do something wrong i want him to spank me. i want him to do it as a punishment when i misbehave rather than during sex but i don't know how to tell him this. does anyone have any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2010): It's much better to talk about sex when you're not in the middle of having sex. Tell him you need discipline in the relationship and when you displease him, he needs to take you over his knee and correct your bad behavior. You can reinforce this by doing something bad right in front of him and when he starts complaining, ask him, "What're you gonna do about it? Spank me?" If he really enjoys spanking you during sex and it doesn't ruin it for you, going along would be a really nice thing to do for him.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 So you told him you liked to be spanked but he thought you meant it during sex, but you don't like it during sex but as a punishment when you do something bad? But you also said it really hurts, so why would you still want him to spank you for a punishment? Or more like a form of foreplay?
Sounds like something your dad should be doing than your boyfriend..
Anyways, so you wish to be spanked as a form of punishment..Well the next time during sex, just tell your boyfriend you don't want him to do it during sex but when you're bad. See what he says, he may or may not agree to it.
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reader, Natalie:) +, writes (1 November 2010):
 hm, well if he enjoys spanking you hard you have got to assume he enjoys dominating. If you whispered in his ear that you want him to spank you only when you've been bad then i don't see how he could resist. Maybe involve a role play where you can actually misbehave and make sure he absolutely loves it so he wants you to do the be bad and get spanked thing again
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