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writes: ive been going out with this lad for nearly 6 months and we are in love. but the other day he told me his mum and dad are splitting up and he is getting really upset about it. my mum and dad split up when i was 18 months old so i don't remember much but what can i say to him that will make him feel better? how do i help him to cope?
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reader, vixsfix +, writes (10 December 2006):
 There's no set thing that you can say to him to cheer him up, no wand you can wave to make the pain go away. unfortunately its just going to be difficult for a while. The only thing that you can do, will be the most important thing for him, that is to just be there for him. sounds easy enough but what does it mean? it means let him know that he can come and talk to you about it anytime day or night, let him nknow that its ok if he feels he's not ready to talk to you about it yet. (its always harder to open up to someone so close than someone a bit more removed)And try not to push him, let him come to you, he'll speak up when he's ready and not when you force him. Be patient and understanding, your there to support. Also try not to give him a hard time, he's likely to be a bit messed up right now and perhaps agitated and shouting at him for being late or whatever is probably just going to make him more upset and think your against him, even though you knopw this isn't the case. Finally keep telling him that you love him and give him lots of hugs and kisses, but only when he wants them (be prepared for him to be a little more closed off - and don't be offended if he rejects your intamacy from time to time, it might remind him of his parents and his sadness of their splittting up)
I really hope this helps and that you can get through this together with minimum pain.
love vix x x x
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