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writes: I have a boyfriend and he used to date this other girl and i am wondering how can i tell if he still loves her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): Is this your boyfriend's one and only ex, or was it simply a long term relationship?
Many people love their exes long after they've fallen out of love with them. If this is the case, it's no threat to your relationship. An occassional mention of her name or a memento of their time together sitting around his place is nothing out of the ordinary, especially if they dated for some time. She was once a big part of his life, and he shouldn't have to hide his past from you.
On the other hand, you may want to keep a keen eye on your bf if he's talking to or about his ex frequently. If he's still in love with her, he may find it difficult to resist the temptation of talking about her, even in front of you. If his relationship with the ex ended shortly before yours began, there's a possibility that he's "rebounding", but this is usually fairly obvious.
The best way to find out what he feels is talking to him. If he explains to you that his ex is a fond memory, then you should try to let go of your fears in order for your relationship to work.
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