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writes:hi i have been with my partner four 5 years almost, i am attracted to men who are more weighty than slimmer men.when i met him he was slightly over weight and it suited me just fine. now however he is beginning to lose weight and although i do love him, im just not finding his body as attractive as i used to.i know it would be selfish of me to suggest he put weight back on as he is losing it for himself, plus there is the health benefits, but he also thinks he is losing weight for me, although i did tell him i loved him the way he was.should i tell him i found him more attractive before hand? or do i just ebcourage him and hide the fact i find him less attractive sexually?any advice is greatly welcome thank you
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reader, dorothy2342  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 It sounds a little selfish of you and you seem a little insecure. If you care about him then answer this; what is best for him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): Let me take a guess? You are a larger lady yourself and little worry that he may push you to lose weight. And maybe little worry that girls might find him attractive. My answer is to tell him the truth cuz either way he willlose weight and get more digit # from other hot girls :).
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reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 Tell him the truth, it will be a lot easier this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): This is a tricky one. Obviously him losing weight will help him health wise so based on that alone I would suggest that you are supportive of him whilst he is going through this. However, if he thinks he is doing it for you it might be best if you gently and in the best way that you can let him know that you like him as he was. Mention times when he turned you on whislt he was a bigger, meatier man. Maybe lovingly pinch his fat and say that you love holding onto him. Tell him that you love being with him and that you love having something to hold on to. However, bar all that I don't think there is much that you can do. Essentially it seems like he is doing this to feel bettter about himself and to look better (in his eyes) and that is something you really, as his other half have to support. If all else fails you can always cook and keep him fat !
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