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writes:When my husband and I met 7 years ago. He was muscular and fit, not a fashionable dresser but clean cut. Now post 6 years of marriage he hates hair cuts and his hair gets fuzzy, hanging in/over his ears and unruly. He prefers to wear jeans and T-shirts (of which I weed out consistently due to congealed arm pits, soiling and tears) black tennis shoes or motorcycle boots. He sweats terribly so the t-shirts are usually black. He's gained @ 20# and lost his muscular physique. His bathing suit is 2 sizes too small - what do I do? The main problem - I feel like I nag all the time - frequently he'll dress all in black/green/blue/denim. I try to gently redirect him - and steer him to dress shirts when we go to dinner or family events. We are motorcyclists and he works in a plant - so I know that t-shirts and jeans are his norm. Anyway I don't want to nag...I've tried taking him shopping but he always defaults to the old style. last night we went to dinner with friends he wore a dark gray T-shirt, black jeans and boots - it was 99 degrees. There is a 11 year age difference between - he's older 51. I'm really tired of nagging and don't want to sound like his mother but help! Reply to this Question
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 Tell him that you don't want to sound shallow but you married a guy that was happy and took care of himself. If you wanted to be married to a slob, you'd have married one, tell him that you're not happy with his physique and it's becoming such a turn off.
Help him maybe show him some clothes that you'd like him to wear and cut his hair for him.
Chances are he's not going to do it without being forced to, I wish you good luck, most males are really stubborn!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): There's nothing you can do, it sounds like you tried everything! Why don't you let yourself go and see how he likes it?? My dad 50 and he dosen't give a damn about his looks but he dyes his hair and so on just to please my mum
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reader, koga 777 +, writes (8 June 2008):
7 years ago he was 46 and it was probly much easier to keep up his appearnce the fact of the matter is the man is in hif fifties and to be frank it's very hard to keep up a muscular physique at that age i mean most athletes retire when they hit 40.there comes a time when couples are going to have to love each other for more then just looks(not saying your shallow)just saying that eventually his hair will turn gray his skin will start to sag and he will be old.that's just how things are i mean there is 11 years between the two of you but it will happen to you too eventually."age catches the swiftest man as quckly as the slowest"
-michael
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