A
female
age
30-35,
*hMyGoodness
writes:this..is about my boyfriend and i...we re in a long distance relationship.. its..weird.. when we re actually together..in person..things are amazing.. but..on the phone...things..are not so great. we fight..constantly..about stupid things.actually..its gotten to the point where WE dont fight..he just tries..and he tells me these horrible things..i really do know he cares.. but.. im confused..when we first started dating..he was soooo sweet.. we d go to bed happy...now.. its almost always me crying myself to sleep after he hangs up on me..and he used to want to talk things out…but now.. if we re on the phone..he hangs up on me..turns off his phone…I just..dont get it..we re planning on moving in together in about a month.. im so excited..like i said..things are amazing when we re together..but.. what if that changes..what if he acts the way he does on the phone..? im scared.. and i dont understand how he can bear to listen to me cry..and to know hes the reason and he could stop it... one time..after us seeing eachother..he said.. 'seeing you cry was the worst thing in my life.. i never want you to cry because of me again..' this..wasnt that long ago..after that.its like we fight all the time..we do have good times..and good nights..and good days..but not like we used to..nothing ive felt about him has changed...has it for him?and...now..he tells me all of these horrible things...like..once..i called him annoying..so..now..im a fucking bitch who always tries to ruin things with us..im a dunce..a stupid twit..im a drag..everything...he gets mad..so easily..and then he hurts me..why is this so easy for him?when i know ive hurt him.. i feel sooo bad.. i cry.. i beat myself up over it..i dont want him to feel hurt..or mad..angry..upset..anything because of me..but..sometimes.. he does..and most times.. hes just mad.. and it could be because of anything..or anyone..but..he ll take it out on me.. i dont get what i do..i know i say stupid things sometimes..but... really.. thats just me..he knows me...im not going to break up with him..i wouldnt do that again..i did..after we had been dating a few months..and almost immediately i knew it was wrong..hes broken up with me...twice..but hes almost done it..oh..a handful of times.every night i go to bed thinking hes going to leave me..i really cant see myself without him..and im not a complete idiot..so its not stupid teenage love..i really do love him.. honestly..forever..im not looking for someone to tell me to break up with him..just... tell me something..anything..what can i do?what should i do...
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reader, brandyy +, writes (20 September 2009):
 In a way it sorta sounds like hes hiding something which gets at his fuse, it sounds alot like some of the relationships ive known. are you sure hes not interested or seeing someone else?
But i just say to talk to him about it all, tell him how you feel. try to be as calm as possible though when your talking to him about this. dont cry and flip out or give him anything to call you a bitch or any other stupid name, if he gets mad over it when your calm, id think something was up.
i wish you the best of luck and hope you guys work out if thats what you really want (:
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