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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi i was with this girl for 5 and a half monthes and i fell in love with her and wanted to spend the rest of my life with her and a week after new years eve she broke up with me.the last few weeks we were together i could tell that something was up with her but i never expected she would break up with me.i know when we started going out she just got out of a 10 year marriage and had 2 kids who i love. i still love her to death and want her back but i dont know if she wants too i need help please i dont wanna spend my life without her.we still talk and im going to see the kids soon.i need advise!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2011): Ok...calm down. Way worse things have happened. My guess is:
-she had just gotten out of a ten year marriage, and wasn't ready to be in a serious relationship. She needs to get her life together...alone...for a little bit.
-she's worried about her kids. Kids can be very stubborn, and i know from experiance, don't usually take a parents divorce very well. Add a marriage in and you have a recipe for a neuclear explosion. Its not right to put them under so much emotional stress so soon.
-she wants to focus on her career. She's a single mom, and frankly, she needs to make more. But, as much as i hate to say it, she can't focus on her career and her kids if she's involved with someone.
-well, you went our for five monthes and you already want to put a ring on her finger. She just got out of a marriage and probably isnt ready for another one.
Those are my guesses. The only thing i can suggest is to spend some time being single, and tell her you love her, and are ready for her when she comes back. But, don't spend your life waiting. You don't deserve that.
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