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female
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51-59,
*onnz99
writes:I've lied to my partner for nearly a year now, about my previous relationship, and my online activities (adult chat, signed up to dating sites), after many fights I finally came clean, wrote down my truths, and signed them (still leaving out a few things). My partner did not and still doesn't belive me. I am a lier, plane and simple, as my partner did not belive me, gave me time frames to tell him the truth, I told him what he wanted to belive (this is the second time I have confessed my sins, when 75% of this is made up for his benfit), He now thinks that I'm the town slut, that I slept with 20+ men,participated in group sex, attending swingers parties, anything you can think of and that he doesn't want to be another notch on my belt. This is so far from the truth, but he can't see this, while i was an internet slut, I only met 3 men, he can't see that just cause i was online, doesn't mean I actually going out and doing the deed.I have really messed up our relationship, I feel hopeless and alone, I don't know what to do anymore, my man is going to leave me, he is always going to think I'm the person that I'm not, the only reason I can go on is because we have a child together.what can I do to save us
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): Tell him that you're going to tell him the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Offer to arrange and pay for a lie detector test to back it up. If he wants that, go ahead and do it. That's all you can do. I cannot think of any less drastic measures when you've done so much lying for so long. All trust is gone right now. Just being realistic, he would be a moron to trust anything else coming out of your mouth at this stage even when you are telling the truth. He needs outside verification.
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