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writes: I am 16 and I like this guy who is 20. He thinks I am 19 but I don't know how to tell him my real age. How do I tell him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2006): I met a girl online...she said she was going to be 18 in a few days...we chatted and found out some amazing things about ourselves...some similarities in our likes and dislikes. She told me that she could not relate to anyone her age and that she was attracted to be. We both love 30's and 40's movies. We both love Gregory Peck, Audrey Hepburn and Astaire/Rogers films, she loves 70's ballads and adores Shakespeare. She is an amazing writer and extremely passionate about life. We did very well chatting...then I somehow found a link to one of her other blogs and discovered she was going to be 16 and not 18. I was angry. She told me that she doubted I would even give her the time of day if I knew her real age and would think her simply a child...and she is only that by time...not wisdom or demeanor. She expressed deep remorse for her decision to lie about her age but our friendship had already progressed to the point where we realized that our friendship was fairly deep...one that would last. She is not a protogé or anything like that. I treat her as an equal. I truly enjoy chatting with her and learning from her. I forgave her for lying and realized it was to get to speak with me...not for negative reasons. If he understands you lied to get close to him...he may understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): I think you already know that, no, it's NOT ok to lie. Telling him will make make him wonder what "else" you have fibbed about. But you have to prove you are sincerely honest and come clean with it, dear. Tell him how sorry you are for doing and why you did it. Then make an effort never to do this again, in any relationship. Always, always, always-tell the truth. That's what he'll take note of you. Just learn from it and don't be hard on yourself. One question I'm curious about: Why did you think he wouldn't like you if you told him your real age? Write back and let me know. Thanks..take care, dear
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): The longer you leave it, the harder it's going to get to tell him. Say something like: I'm really sorry, I'm only sixteen, I just like you so much I thought I would tell you I was nineteen. This won't affect our relationship will it?If he doesn't want to see you again, you can't really judge him. How would you feel if someone lied to you like that. Hope he forgives you.
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