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writes:Why are girls so naive about their bfs? This girl was told that her bf had been cheating on her since the day they started dating.(2 yrs)They are off more than anything. Throughout their whole relationship she would tell her incidents about her bf and this girl, but the gf would always say its not true! This girl warned the bf she was gonna rat him out, and he told his gf not to take any of this girls phone calls. She did, and the girl sat down with the gf, and told her everything thats been going on. They both compared notes and she had a feeling the girl might be telling the truth. Then after calling her bf on it, the bf calls and leaves a very nasty threatening message on the girls phone. Days later the girl asks the gf how everything was going, and she totally ignored her. The girl left an away message online about "The Cheating Couple" and the gf calls the girl and starts bitching at her. She tells the girl that shes psycho, and that she has NO proof of anything, and that she is gonna take out a restraining order out on her. This girl keeps a diary, and showed her everything that was documented. She had pictures, and her yearbook of what he actually wrote to her, phones messages and logs of his calls! She had more proof than any person could have to prove her point. Her bf doesnt have anything to back up all his lies! She knew all the times the gf called the bf, because she was with him, and yet the gf thinks she is still lying. The girl told the gf that SHE is naive, and that him and her are the psycho one, and that she better wake up out of that little dream world shes living in! The gf called the bf(actually they are broken up again for the 30th time)whining to him, and the bf calls the girl up again, and leaves another nasty threatening message on phone. One message said he was gonna "kill her", and the 2nd one said he is gonna "slit her throat". He also called her an "ugly bitch", and "slut". This guy was the one calling all the shots. The girl NEVER chased him. She told him if he leaves one more threatening message, She WILL GO TO THE POLICE! She warned him before all hell broke loose that she was gonna tell his gf EVERYTHING, if he didnt stop accusing her, and treating her like crap after everytime they've been together! We seriously think this girl and guy have mental issues. We know why HES mad, but why is she? The night the girl told the gf everything, the girl wanted to know why she never listened to her when she tried telling her all the stuff about him in those 2 yrs, and she said that she didnt want to believe it. Then why days later is she in denial again? She is intelligent, but she has NO commone sense whatsoever. She told me a year ago she wasnt ever gonna date him again, and she keeps falling back into the same situation, but she doesnt do anything to find out the real truth. She could easily ask other people, but its like whatever the lying bf tells her....SHE BELIEVES!! She has told me numerous times hes an ass to her, and when theyre mad its for 4 days straight! Things are so so between them for about 3 mos. then he starts his crap again. Then he kiss up to her by putting all this suck up lyrics in his away message, and the gf falls all over it again! They tell the girl to stay the hell out of their relationship, when HES the one who keeps dragging her into it, by doing what he does, and telling her about the relationship!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007): I am a little confused but here is the scenario as I understand it.
There is a boy that is dating a girl for 2 years or so, and while calling her his girlfriend, he has been carrying on with another girl in the background who is accepting crumbs of his attention, and he has been stringing her along as a back up for when he and his so called girlfriend are off, or when he feels like a little snack.
Girl in the background is getting pissed off that she is playing the tidbit role and is documenting everything so she can interject herself into his primary relationship and get revenge, or get the boy's attention and confront him with the fact that he still is seeing her so why is he being so mean?
Girlfriend does not have high enough self esteem or doesn't have any morals amd doesn't care that her boyfriend is a pig so she is putting up with him and getting really mad at the girl in the background and so is he, she has become a real nuisance and even showing signs of being obsessed with this guy to the point that she is willing to go to the mat for him.
Girl in the background needs some counseling to get over her obsession with this guy ruining his relationship with his girlfriend, there is nothing there to ruin anyway, this is all very immature and dysfunctional and she should stop bothering them both or she may very well find herself in legal trouble, hurt or even dead! If you are that girl, you need to let go and move on, you allowed
this guy to treat you like dirt so why are you so angry, he's a pig and not worth your time and energy?
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