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female
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writes:He said he loves me and i said no.he used ask for his request.but one day i think he was annoyed he said "i'm done i won't disturb u again enjoy your life" this all means he quit, does he really love me.and honestly now i'm catching feelings for him.he sometime used to dial at nite but i'm afraid to pick up the phone.what should i do??help me with different answers please!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (6 March 2011):
Hi there. Are you talking about a sexual relationship?
Or, were you merely friends?
Are you saying that he would call you to see you and have sex with you?
If this is it, it sounds like he said - "I love you" - because he wanted to keep you under his control and saying YES to him. He only wants what HE wants.
You don't want to make yourself always available for men who only want to use women - for sex.
Men like that, say what they think you want to hear. They say nice things, make a few promises, but rarely follow through on them. They do only what works. Whatever it takes to get what they want.
Telling a woman - "I love you" - is one of those phrases.
When you said "No" to him (after the "I Love You" phrase), he found that it no longer worked for him, so now he's probably doing the same thing with some other poor sucker.
If he ever calls you again at night (for sex), answer the call - don't avoid it - and just say - "Sorry, I can't, I'm busy", then end the call.
By doing that, you show him that you deserve better and that you have a high level of self respect. And that you refuse to be mistreated by anyone.
You DO deserve better than that. Don't ever let any man take you for granted or mistreat you. You deserve to be treated with respect and dignity always. Don't ever forget that.
Good luck and best wishes.
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