He made plans on our day off without consulting me first!

A female age 41-50, *maris writes:

My boyfriend and I have lived together for almost 5 years now and recently became engaged. We moved into a new place a few months ago and are just starting to get to know our neighbors better. Our HOA president lives right accross the street from us and just happens to be a single woman. She has started coming around a lot more and seems to always need my fiancees' help for one thing or another. She just asked my fiancee if he could help her with yet another project for the neighborhood and he accepted. I just got off of the phone with him after a pretty nasty argument. I let him know that i didnt feel comfortable with him accepting to do things with her without asking me if im alright with it first. To me its just common courtesy to let your significant other know about things going on on your only day off together for the week. He doesnt understand how i feel that this is not healthy for a relationship! Am I wrong for feeling this way?

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