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41-50,
*lis1103
writes:My boyfriend has been out of work for the past month and I usually have the summer off due to my line of work. We've been arguing about petty things and our relationship has changed this past month. We're been around eachother 24 hours a day and it seems that we've both developed a short fuse. We spoke about our situation a few days ago and he expressed to me that he's feeling smothered and feels like he doesn't have his space. How do I give him space? For the next several days, I've been finding things to occupy my time around the house and found myself not even showing as much affection as usual. His affection for me hasn't changed. Why does he want space? It's not my fault that he lost his job this past month and I'm home, too! Can this break a relationship? Is he losing interest?
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (18 August 2007):
He is sounding nervous, confused, anxious...He might feel like he's the one that should be earning the money here and now that he isn't, he might feel like less of a man. He might be searching for answers as to why it happened or maybe he is feeling a lot of pressure to find a job, especially if a month has already passed with no luck. He may want time alone just to think things out and find the answers why or plan his next move. There are many maybes in this situation and he might not know the answer himself. It can break a relationship if it escalates and he does or says something really stupid. I don't know if it is really that he is losing interest. His pride might be hurt or he may even feel unworthy of you. However, he could also displace the blame onto you because he cannot do anything to get his job back. I don't think that is it though if he continues the same level of affection for you.
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