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writes:I have been dating this guy for a couple of months now. We have been having sex with me on birth control, but Im pregnant. I dont know How to tell him as he lost his daughter a couple of weeks ago and as you can imagine is a bit of a mess at the minute and has alot on his plate. I dont want to tell him just yet with everything he already has to deal with, but am struggling dealing with this on my own at the minute. I dont know whether I should tell him just yet or wait a little while. We both already have children he has 3 girls and I have one daughter. We have not got to the stage of meeting each others family and kids just yet as its only a new relationship. I dont know how to tell him either. I guess Im a little scared to tell him to.Neither of us planned on this happening...I dont even know if I wanted more kids. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): Its deffinantly his child...there is no doubt in that as have not ben with anybody else. I do think I need to tell him regardless of what decicion made. I think will just have to wait a little while and give him some more time and am just waiting for the right moment to tell him. Thank you for your help with my question. Your ansewers were very helpfull.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): A couple of questions. First, could it be anyone else's child? Second, are you clear in your own mind what your preferences would be. That is, are you leaning toward having an abortion, or is abortion something you would never do? The only reason to hurry up and tell him is if you plan to terminate the pregnancy, which obviously had to be done sooner rather than later. If you will keep the child regardless, or if you will put it up for adoption, then there's no reason to lay this bombshell on him when he's got so much on his plate at the moment. While you naturally are anxious to discuss it with him, give him as much time as possible to heal first.
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