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writes:My boyfriend of just over a year broke up with me a few weeks ago. He never really gave me a reason why up until yesterday when he said it's all because of my past, he can't accept it and feels it's always going to get in the way of me and him. I've done some stupid things in the past but I need him to realise that I love him too much and can't be without him. I eally want him back, I know he loves me he just can't get over my past. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): I can identify myself in your boyfriend. Their are things you can accept and others you can't, even if it happened in the past. You may have done something he finds hard to accept. Surely he can turn a blind eye in the short run, but after sometime the thought of your past will haunt him, and that is what he is afraid of. That is why he wants to be out of the relationship before it's too late or goes too far in the relationship.
So what u can do is, to befriend him,, stay like friends. Then u have to assure him that you are not the same girl you were before,, then you can give him special attentions(i don't mean sex or french kiss), like being nice to him, listening, making him feel good about himself. You need to be really strong coz doing it 1 day or 2 is easy but keeping this up for months is harder. In the end he will really like you and will definitively not want to lose contact with you. Then gradually you can be a bit more physical in this friendship and become a couple by telling him you still love him.
Now, is this gonna work??
Their's only one way for it to fail. ANOTHER GIRL. As you will be his friend, maybe his best-friend, you'll see the competition coming. So get him away nicely before the other girl hooks on him. If you are afraid a girl is getting too close of him,, just gossip a bit on her( like she cheated on her ex and the same is coming for you).
If I was in his shoes, you would have broken my defences, and i would gladly surrender to you.
BEWARE: IT MIGHT TAKE SEVERAL MONTHS TO ACHEIEVE THIS. IF YOU ARE NOT READY OR STRONG ENOUGH, THEN GET OVER IT AND FIND A NEW BOYFRIEND.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): in order to give you any advice im going to need to know what in your past he cant get over around here im the guy you talk to when you have a problem and 99.9 percent of the time i can help because i dont deal in emotion only cold hard truth witch in most matters of the heart is what you need but in order to do so i need all the facts so i can try to put myself in those shoes and give you some advice.
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