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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Just your thoughts on this one.Met a guy recently - really great but he has alot worries in his life at the moment. Both his parents are really ill - one has just had a stroke and the the other has psorosis of the liver. He has moved back in with them as he feels he needs to keep an eye on him, he sister lives abroad so all the responsibility has fallen onto him. The relationship with them is strained as they are not close at all and there are even more arguments in the house as his parents are taking his sister to court over some property. So - in general, he is really miserable with his home life. He feels trapped but feels that he just needs to stay in the house (even though he has his own home) as he feels as though he just can't leave them. This in turn eats him up inside as he just can't live a 'normal'life at the moment.On top of everything else, he is really worried about his job - there maybe a possibility of redundancy.So - with all this going on - I guess the last thing on his mind is a relationship.....But I know he likes me and it's hard as I really like him back. But he has said that he just cant give me what I want as he just can't commit with so much happening in his life.Now - I am torn, do I just walk away as I just can't be his friend as there are too many emotions on my side involved. Or is there any possibility of me being in his life in the hope that as time progresses, he could change his mind. I know he is snowed under at the moment but I still feel something could happen. Am I wrong??Any thoughts??
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): I am sorry to suggest this but I really think you should move on. With this man's family turmoil, he may have grown up in a disfunctional family and may have intimacy issues to begin with. Regardless of his situation of caring for his parents. You can't fix that and staying around to "support" him will not prove to him how you feel about him, it will only tell this man what your willing to put up with. Wasting your time and youth is fruitless. Don't make anyone a priority who doesn't return the commitment.
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