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writes:My wife mentioned tonight that the girl next door told her that her husbands penis is 9" long, we get on really well with them but now things have changed in my mind. My penis is only 5" and I now imagine my wife to be fascinated by his size. My wife is very sexual and I know that she masturbates with sex aids bigger than I am, she always wears stockings and heels wherever we go and when we have sex she loves talking dirty. Can I put my mind at rest?
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reader, Mugzie69  +, writes (3 July 2009):
 OK so the girl next door mentions that her husband is hung like a horse. Your wife passes this along to you. You're close friends and neighbours. Access certainly isn't an issue. But for these girls to discuss penis size like they're comparing recipies--isn't that just a wee bit odd? Your wife is very sexual and loves sex talk. The neighbour lady doesn't mind either. Since penis size doesn't drop into conversation from the sky, they're clearly discussing it. OK so your wife dresses in stocking and heels. The important part is that she 'always' does it. So it's conscious. She is obviously 'dressing' for the occasion. And likely, it isn't her girlfriend. Since none of this is missed on your neighbor lady, I'm guessing that your neighbour lady and her well-endowed husband enjoy the lifestyle. I could be wrong about this, but I think that they and your wife are beginning a process of socializing you into 'the lifestyle.'Would that appeal to your wife? Would it fascinate her? Of course it would! She's using big toys now, right? In about a year, that's going to wear old (assuming nothing is happening already). But whatever you do, don't jeopardize a friendship just because there is some electricity in the air. You're supposed to enjoy the tension. The fact that he is so hung only builds that much more angst. Don't blow things or sour a good friendship because of this. Maybe something is SUPPOSED to be!By the way, it's quite possible that your wife passed along to her that your penis is about half the size of her husbands. If so, that will definitely be on his mind as he sees your wife dressing for him every time you're over there. You can't fight it. But I certainly wouldn't put my mind at ease. I'd enjoy this and work it for all its worth! Let us know how things go!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009): Let's face it, all men and all women are different in what they like related to sex. There are guys who love to get a blow job and guys who have written on this board who don't like it much at all. I like it, but it's not a biggie for me.
It is the same for women. Some love oral sex above all other types of sex and some don't like it at all and everything in between. One woman who I dated loved oral sex and wouldn't want sex without it, as that is the only way she could orgasm. Another woman who I dated didn't seem to like it much. My wife has her best orgasms with oral sex and likes to get both oral and intercourse almost every time. However, she has said that if she had a choice of only having oral and great orgasms every time or only having intercourse and just sometimes having an orgasm that she would take the intercourse only. This is mainly because she loves the closeness and intimacy of intercourse. We discussed this because one of the guys who she used to date was very affectionate and loved to cuddle, but would not do oral either way (on him or on her) and she said that she could have lived her entire life like that if it were not for some problems that he had that were a deal breaker. Of course, she likes having all that and oral better, but the oral is less important than the affection, cuddling and intercourse is to her. I suspect that is the case with a lot of women. One porn star from about a decade ago even said that her clitoris was not sensitive at all and that she had multiple orgasms with intercourse, so oral meant nothing to her.
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reader, rocknroll +, writes (6 June 2009):
Can you put your mind at rest? Not sure what that means.
The power of suggestion may have only made her thing about either playing with her toys, or hopping on you.
Do you consider yourself a prude at all? Maybe what you need, and I am sure she would support you, are classes in Mantra. You might be a little prudish, fearful even of showing your inner core, being laughed at, but women when they laugh usually laugh because it show vulnerability and it is just downright cute.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): First of all, I don't see anything that you said that indicates to me that this is not a serious question. Men have asked similar questions to this on this board before and women have asked questions where they are afraid that their husband prefers women with bigger breasts. Now to try to answer your question instead of insult you.
Since I have only talked to a couple of women about this subject, I am relying on what women have written in serious discussions on various boards. It is true that some women want a guy with a much larger than average penis, but they seem to be a small minority. There was one who used to write on DC who answered a similar question. She said that she would rather have a man with a very large penis who was just an average lover than a man with an average penis who is a great lover. She then added that the vast majority of women she knows would take the average sized great lover and that she realizes that she is unusual.
Most women say that they prefer a guy with a penis between 5 and 6 inches long, with some saying that up to 7 inches is fine. My wife prefers 6 inches as ideal for her, but dated a guy once who was only about 4 inches and she was satisfied with him. She also dated a guy who was about 8 inches and it was sometimes uncomfortable for her and he never got it in the entire way. A quicky was also out of the question with him.
Even women who prefer an average sized guy might like to fantasize about being with someone who is huge, but a woman who has been hurt by a guy like that doesn't even find it a satisfying fantasy. My wife actually doesn't like to watch porn if the guy is huge. She tends to imagine it is her being screwed by the guy and that makes her cringe.
If your wife has never been with a guy who is really big then it might be a good fantasy for her. However, I think it is unlikely that she would really want to have him once she experienced sex with him.
Here is one discussion that I bookmarked when I found it last year when answering a similar question.
http://www.altpenis.com/penis_news/women_penis_size.shtml
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reader, niki20 +, writes (6 June 2009):
 these two have the right idea, sex w/ a bigger penis is severly uncomfortable, to be honest w/you i looked online and did some reasearch for school ontime and the average penis size i an inch smaller then a dollar bill when erected. so his wife honetly might not be enjoying herself as much as you two think. besides she might have been lying about his sizw anyway. to make him feel better about himself b/c he might not be good at sex. so next time you see him dont think how big his member supposivly is but how much you can satisfy your wife instead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): I am sure you are attracted to other breasts than just your wife's....does that mean you are dissatisfied with hers? Would you cheat on her just to touch another woman's breasts? I am sure your wife loves you exactly the way you are or she wouldn't have married you. Try reminding yourself of this, hope that helps :)
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