| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: I always see my bf every weekend because he goes to college but my mom grounded me this weekend and is preventing me from seeing him this weekend. We have been togather for a year and never missed a week without seeing him. What can I do without going emotionally crazy? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2006): Hang in there. It's not the end of the world. It's not like you're never going to see him ever again. Don't you think he feels the same way?! Talk to your mum about it. Tell her your sorry for whatever you did wrong. Be calm and gently say that you really miss your boyfriend, and you'd really like to see him just once this weekend, please. Say that even if you can't go out, can't he come and see you, if your mum still says no, then don't plaed and plead, say OK, and carry on with your weekend. Do things that will distract you from thinking about your boyfriend, like reading a good book, watching telly and DVD's/video's, playing the computer etc. At night, if you can't sleep, pick up a magazine or a good book, or sometimes, it's easier to think about seeing him. So when you're lying in bed, think to yourself about seeing him next time. If you do get to see him sometime on the weekend, then make any time with him, quality time, and really enjoy yourself, so you don't regret it after. XXX
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2006): I am sure you will miss your boyfriend, but it's kind of pathetic if you can't go one weekend without seeing him. I think you will be able to go a week without going 'emotionally crazy'.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2006): Every home has privileges, direction and rules. You broke a rule so the consequence..is you got grounded. You are saddened, but I hope..a lot wiser. Take this time and think on how you can respect your home and your parents, now and in the future. They are trying to teach you responsibility and being accountable for yourself and your acting out behaviours, dear. Remember, try not to complain to Mom and Dad too much..because they will take note of those behaviours. A true mark of maturity is how you accept limits and so use this time, to think constructively and how to act better, in the future. This is what 'grounding' a teenager means. Good luck.
...............................
A
female
reader, fairyangel  +, writes (4 February 2006):
 Well, I am presuming yu have done something rather serious to deserve being grounded in the first place, so...
With this in mind, all you really can do, is take your punishment in a mature manner and realise that in future, you need to adhere to your mom's rules or suffer the consequences.
A weekend is just a weekend... it's not a jail sentence...
Learn from your mistakes so that in the future, you will not have to repeat the feelings you are having now.
Keep yourself busy, study or read a book, help your mom with the chores and have a long soak in the bath and reflect on what you have done, and how you can avoid landing yourself in this situation again.
the break could even do you and your boyfriend some good... making you appreciate the freedom you usually enjoy in being together.
...............................
|
