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writes:Okay, so here is my story. i just need some advice. My girlfriend and I have been going out for just about 2 and a half years. When i say that we had the perfect relationship i mean it. we never needed to fight, had the same interests, great sex life, we would never want to leave each others sides. i constantly took pictures of her and you could really see the love in her eyes. about three weeks ago she said she needed a break because she was afraid that she forgot how to be independent. she didn't want to go her whole life feeling too dependent on me. we are both young, 19, and both go to college fairly close to one another. we made an agreement to talk once a week on the phone. and when we did, it couldn't be more normal. but when we talked today she said she might need another month. i asked her what the real problem was and she said she felt i was too dependent on her, she felt we were too worried about the future. this really hurt me but i told her i understood. i asked her if she wanted to break up with me because i don't want her leading me on. she keeps telling me she loves me, but i just can't understand where she is coming from because i don't feel the same way. It felt too real when she said she wanted to be with me forever. Please help me out here. Thanks for listening!
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reader, Pheonix1  +, writes (11 February 2011):
Tell her you too have decided you need a break.
Show her you also want to be independent, and stick to it! Don't ring her too regularly, even if you really want to, be strong! Make it seem as though you are totally independent of her. Go out with mates and do your own thing.
She will either be impressed, see you are independent after all, or realise she misses the dependence on each other you both had.
You must stick to it or it will not work - and don't expect results in an instance.
Hope this helped! Good luck :)
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