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Gay? Or just very open minded?

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Question - (13 May 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 13 May 2009)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

i have always wanted to be with a tgirl but i have not got to.but i have found a girl that loves to use her strap on on me and loves ass play.Hell i like it to but now she wants to dress me up in drag i dont know if i should.and does this make me gay or bi or just very open minded?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009):

She obviously loves the idea. Whether or not you find it's a turn-on is up to you, but (I've just said the exact same thing to a guy on this site who was asking about taking a strap-on, which you have already done) to say the least, it's intriguing that you didn't instantly dismiss the idea.

I'll say to you what I said to him. You need to ask yourself, in all honesty: do you like the idea? Does it gross you out, or does the very thought give you delicious tingles?

Of course it's scary. Dressing up in drag, at first, is one of the most terrifying things a male can do. Your heart races, your stomach melts, your head starts swimming and you're like 'I can't believe I'm really doing this.' It seems like you're totally surrendering any pretence of masculinity.

If you get a taste for it, the benefits eventually more than outweigh the fear factor, as you enter a whole other world where you have all the delicious choices of clothing, make-up, lingerie, perfumes etc. etc. and adventurous nights out.

You have what sounds like a fantastic, open-minded girlfriend who is willing to explore this with you. The choice is entirely yours. If you don't want to, don't do it. If you do, then go for it. She's there to help.

As for whether it will lead to you wanting intimacy with men, that again is up to you (I'd say it makes it significantly more likely, as being in drag gives you a sexual charge that makes it seem overwhelmingly tempting to have sex with a man, but that may not apply to you if you've never previously felt anything for men.)

I hope it works out and that you have fun!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009):

I can't say you're gay and I can't say I think you're bi for the simple fact that most men like anal play it stimulates the prostate glands and makes for a better orgam. I think you are very open minded when it comes to sex and that's never a bad thing. You should feel lucky you found someone that is willing to meet your sexual needs desires and wants. As far as the drag that's something you need to be comfortable with. If you're not ready or just don't want to die to feeling uncomfortable then don't just tell her maybe later on as things progress and you feel more comfortable. But no I don't think you are anything more but open and having fun! Unless you have desires to be Intimate with a man or have at one point! I hope I helped some but If you'd like to talk more on this you can mail me! Good luck be safe and have fun!

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