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writes: Hey,I'm 19 and I've been going out with this girl of the same age for exactly 4 weeks now. I'm still enthusiastic as I ever was about our relationship, but my girlfriend seems to be less enthusiatic about us. Before we started going out, we were more lively if you know what I mean. I still am, but shes not as lively as she used to be. Which I miss, as I feel like it's me putting all the effort in most of the time... As far as I'm aware, she is still wanting to be with me, which I'm very happy about, as I dont know what I'd do if she left me right now...Also, recently I've had 2 dreams where she has cheated on me. I went to a dream definition site and found this..."AdulteryTo dream of helplessly watching a mate have sex or making out with someone else is your inner expression of feelings of sexual inadequacy or insecurity with the romantic involvement with your mate. "Now that actually sounds quite true. We haven't actually had sex yet. I'm still a virgin at 19 years old, and I 'think' she is too. Should I push things forward? How should I go about moving things forward with her, and how do I know when shes 'ready' without asking? Or is asking the best thing to do?Thanks to anyone that takes their time to read this and any replies are appreciated...
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (5 February 2006):
 It is a great pleasure to have been of some assistance to you, it is always very rewarding to receive feedback,
I wish you both well & Good Luck for tonight, great idea!
Looking foward to hearing how things pan out....
Take Care Always!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, i am the original poster. Thanks very much fairyangel, i will have to have a talk to her i think! Although, shes pretty shy on this subject, and so am i, lol. I suggested to her tonight that we need some "you and me time" (which we haven't had much of) to which she agreed, although shes pretty busy at the moment. Again, thanks, and i'll let you know know it results :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2006): Well, honestly i think that you are a bit off, just because a girl isn't enthusiastic about a relationship isn't bad you know. But if you are dreaming she is cheating on you already than i don't think you should be together. I suggest you wait another week and if she seems more off or you dream this anymore, then i think you should end it...or talk to her about it.
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reader, fairyangel +, writes (4 February 2006):
I am sorry, but 4 weeks & you are obsessing about her being unfaithful?
Yes, you do have some serious insecurity issues with regards to this ...
You say you are not even sure whether she is a virgin or not...
So you have not even had a discussion about this yet?
You need to have this discussion with her first, but don't push things, she will no doubt let you know if and when she is ready to have sex with you. But talk about it & find out what her views are on the subject.
You never know... she could be wanting to save her self for marriage one day, so talk, or you will never be any the wiser.
Still, 4 weeks is very soon to be having sex in a caring relationship anyway, and even sooner, to be having relationship problems of any kind.
I wish you all the best with your relationship,& hope that
all goes well in the future.
Take Care.
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