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writes:My bestfriend who i have known for around 4 years now had started turning a bit cold recently and its been bugging me. We still go out and have parties and talk about everything, but i was on her social network account tonight she left unattended at mine, i was just snooping around..i know its rude but were bestfiriends so its okay i suppose as shes checked mine quite alot anyway. and i stumbled across an inbox with her and 2 of my friends and they were just bitching about me and how i am a pussy and i will not get the tattoo i want or it will look ugly, or they dont believe i had a nose piercing (which i did i just took it out and luckily there was no bump left)its irritating me, they are coming to my house tomorrow as im holding a party and i dont know what to do!?!
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reader, msnewbeginning  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 Just keep your distance because eventually they will start talking about you to your face acting like they are joking.
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reader, frou frou  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 They sound like idiots. Unfortunately, a lot of people are idiots and it's just one of those fun life lessons. If you get a tattoo or not or how it will look has absolutely nothing to do with them (unless for some reason you're planning to get their names + IDIOTS tattoed on your forehead).
The best way to look at this is to act in the way that makes you come out of the situation best. Confronting them might lead to them turning on you and causing even more damage. And they could use against you that you were checking their email. Equally, however, you don't have to put up with this kind of people. So you're having a party? Good times. If I were you, I'd throw the party and totally OWN IT. Throw yourself into it and be biggest social butterfly there is. And although you don't have to officially un-invite these people or spend the whole night ignoring them, neither do you have to say very much to them at all. You can just be a bit uninterested in them, while you talk to all the other far more interesting people at the party. If they start being catty, try your hardest just to not be interested in what they are saying, it is idiot-speak!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 Well first off it was wrong to look through the account but I would be tempted with the curiousity as well. The problem is if you canfront them on it they will know you were in the account so I wouldn't say anything until you have some physical evidence to call them out on.
As for the tattoo don't connect the idea of it with those people, you really want to just do it for yourself. Also take all the time you need to decide on what you want and to make sure you won't just end up hating it. I almost spen a year with a drawing and the idea of what I wanted before I went an got my tattoo.
So try your best to ignore but call them out is they say anything to you, or set them up by bringing up the tattoo that you want. You're not a pussy for not getting it. One I don't think you are old enough yet and either way you want to be smart about it and make sure it is done proffesionally if you do decide to get it.
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reader, Mature Lady +, writes (30 June 2011):
It is a true saying that eavesdroppers never hear or read good of themself's,you should not have been reading her social site nor should she be reading your's,only you can make the descision if you want them at your party,they seem very petty and certainly are not true friend's to you.I would confront them and let them know you know what has been going on,I am sure you can find a truer friend or friends than these immature girls.
I am sure you will enjoy your party whether they are at it or not.
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reader, Mickkiee +, writes (30 June 2011):
 The best advice i can give you is to play them at their own game. Don't tell them you know and just don't be as friendly if you can. Its a hard thing to have trust broken in a bestfriend relationship but honestly youll be stronger for it. The problem is if you confront them they will know you creeped her page without her permission and could get you isolated from the group. Not that it sounds like a group you want to be part of. i would try to be not as friendly and perhaps make some new friends i know its easier said than done but honestly if you can treat them the way youve been treated they will not like it and wise up. And at the end of the day if you get a tattoo its up to you and none of their business. You could say youve been showing a boy (make up a name) some of your ideas and hes said taht they will look great on you or something to make them think taht they are not your only friends. Good luck i really hope this helps and luck with the tattoo :D
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