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writes:This probably sounds very lame and I agree with you, it is. But I can't help it. I think I am starting to like-a lot- someone*wait for it* online. I don't know hwy or even how. Well I have a blog and even though I am a 16 year old it isn't full of love boys blah blah crap. It is about writing and not teenage-y at all. a fellow blogger (2 years older than me and with the same interests) and I have become good blog-friends. At first we only talked about writing but slowly we are getting more personal to each other. Even though we haven't met, we are awesome "friends" and don't just critique our writings like we used to. I'm falling for him bad! He is just perfect, a writer, a sweet smart guy and well...What should I do? I know it sounds ridiculous to say that I want to get together, how should I get over it? Help me! It is affecting my writing too. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): I know a number of people who met and fell in love online, there's nothing weird about that - indeed, I met a woman thru my own blog, we've have corresponded for many years years, I adore her and she feels the same for me, indeed, the only thing that has kept us from pursuing something more is the fact that both of us are married and intend to stay that way - plus we live on opposite sides of the globe - but I have no doubt that if we were both single when we met I would not let the distance be the thing to keep us apart - anyway, you *are* single, and I say go for it, BUT be smart about it, find out as much as you can about him - name, address, other pertinent info - and explain your reasons for asking, be suspicious if he balks, and maybe ask someone older whom you trust to offer you their opinion about the guy, and if they have a good vibe, go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): Could you meet up with this guy in person, and see whether the reality matches up to what you imagine?
If you do, read the guidelines for meeting up,from the dating site, make sure it is daytime,someone knows where you are etc. as there are some weird people out there and you need to stay safe.
I hope it works out for you.
Don't give too much information about yourself over the internet. You need to know who you are talking to. If you are a writer, you probably have a strong imagination, so use it for your writing, not for making up a story about a person that they might not live up to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): Hmm...This is interesting. I would say if you've gotten to know him, and you really appreciate and admire his thoughts and ideas, then he is a nice guy. Think about if you read your blog conversations out loud and whether or not they sound like something a crush of yours or someone you really like would say. If they do, then good! He's probably really nice. But also, seriously be careful about meeting up before you know him too well. You may decide he's not right for you, and the crush will pass. If this wasn't just a chance that you guys met, then great!
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 I'd warn you about the dangers of meeting someone from the internet in person, but you probably already know all that. Bring a friend just to be on the safe side, but there isn't anything crazy about wanting to meet him. Sure, my uncle met my aunt through being pen pals and they were in love before they even met each other.
Have fun, but be cautious.
xx
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reader, dirtball +, writes (3 December 2010):
 Why is it ridiculous? People meet online all the time. Is there something stopping you from proposing a meeting? Would you want to meet if he proposed it?
Really, the only problem I see is that of legal ages and what not.
Is there some reason why you two couldn't meet?
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reader, simplicityasone +, writes (3 December 2010):
 This is common and not rediculous at all. If you have proof that he is real (and I mean solid proof, not just "OH HE HAS PICTURES") I don't see why this couldn't be a feesible relationship. I met my boyfriend of ten months online we started dating before we'd met each other and with solid proof, we set up a safe meeting place and things went great. Just keep a good head on your shoulders and let it go slow.
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reader, Geronimo +, writes (3 December 2010):
 Depends on how far away you are apart. I just traveled1200 miles to meet someone I met online. I feel for her but she didn't me. Now im a wreck. Be very careful.
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