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male
age
36-40,
*rOveranalysing
writes:So, with gay guys being friends, things can become a little blurred. A recurring problem I have is guys will touch me in places that I perceive to be quite sexual (i.e. stroking lower back, or getting very close and personal to me). The moment I return the favour, they are very negative back and seem surprised as in "You're getting a bit too close for comfort". I don't know if these guys are deliberately trying to lead me on, or very forgetful, or whatever, but I send extreme double standards and a strong sense that the same rules do not apply to them. How do I deal with guys like this in a humorous way, that makes it clear that they cannot try before they by. Take into account they might just be friendly, but because they are attractive no one calls them out on their behaviour. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2014): Listen this is real simple.. No matter who was touching me ( otherthan my hubby) and I did not care for it, it was to intimate for my liking.. Then I would just say ' hey that's a bit close to home '. Or ' if you ain't buying you can't touch this ' and laugh it off..Being heterosexual or bisexual or homosexual doesn't give anyone the right to touch anywhere another person doesn't like.The only reason there continuing is because your not saying and being honest, I have to ask ' why?' And ' why?' Are you touching them back when you are giving the impression your a heterosexual male..Could it be.. Maybe possible they know you are more than what you say ? That you have homosexual tendencies .. That's why you are testing the waters By touching them ... Maybe that's is why they rebuff your advances as you pretend to be one way but however act another..Summing up though .. If you don't like them touching say.. And be true to yourself no matter your sexuality.. Be happy ..
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