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30-35,
anonymous
writes:He's stopped saying "I love you".I don't know what to think. We're closer than ever. He's never been one to say "I love you" very much- he said it was overused (I knew the bullshit in that statement, but thats another story). I said it first, about 2 or 3 months ago. And he said it back. After that, I said it again a few times- but only when I really felt it. And he'd say it back. Once he said it first, I think.But just lately, I noticed that, somewhere along the line, he stopped saying it entirely. I told him tonight "I love you so much". He opened his mouth, as if to say something, and then the neighbor's door slammed and he jumped. "Saved by the door," I wanted to say, but I bit my tongue.My question is... I love him... do you think he's truly afraid of those three words? He's always there for me when I need support... He calls when he says he will, and even when he only says "maybe", I know he'll show up. do we really put too much emphasis on three words these days? He's really one of the best things to ever happen to me. I'm so happy when he's around, miserable when he's gone. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): I think if you say it too much, and he hasn't been saying it back, then it starts to feel like pressure, I would back off a bit, and let him come to you....if you feel this is about a balance of power in the relationship, then take some of yours back by not letting his lack of I love you's effect your sense of your self and confidence in your relationship....I think I love you can be over used, and most men if deep in a relationship, take the whole I love you pretty seriously, like in I want to marry you someday....
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