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writes:Hey, friends! I just have a simple question of opinion.Do you think it's better to end a relationship neatly, on a decent note? Or are you okay if the end of your relationship with someone was messy?I'll be moving from the city I'm currently living in, and the entire time I was here I'd been dating this one guy. We had a very rocky relationship that ultimately ended a week ago when he relapsed into a serious drug habit (he'd been clean when we first started seeing each other). Usually my breakups are pretty tame; and even if I don't talk to the other person again, the end of our relationship never entails tears, anger, or despair.In this case, the last thing I said to this guy was a cold-hearted "'eff' you." I was considering saying a friendly good riddance over lunch before I move, but, frankly, he doesn't deserve such respect.How do you all prefer to say goodbye? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): We would all like to say Eff you to some we have dated.....
Obviously its best to end on a good note, but sometimes its just not possible, depends WHY you split really.
You did right though, because its how you felt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): I generally do like to leave relationships on a good note. It doesn't always happen that way though. In your circumstances though I would just leave it and accept that this is one of those times that it isn't going to end on a good note. I would like to add though that all people deserve respect as a general rule.
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reader, CANDY61 +, writes (26 March 2012):
I've never done drugs but I do know a lot of people that got caught up in this type of behavior.. I would leave on a good note.. not because of him but because of me... there's some things I've done in the pass that I wish NOW that I had handle in a nicer way. It doesn't mean that you have to end it with a dinner. I would say to him
''you know our relationship isn't healthy, its been up and down for too long and I refuse to go on like this, I'm feeling that we're not meant for each other so we should go our separate ways"
So to answer your question, I would end it neatly, on a good note. You're leaving town anyways!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good Luck
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reader, Deagan +, writes (26 March 2012):
 Oh, and to answer your question, I would like to leave a relationship on a good note when it is warranted.
No need for a good note when someone cheats on you, for example.
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reader, Deagan +, writes (26 March 2012):
He fell into a serious drug habit?
Eff you was definitely warranted.
Why would you want to leave it on a good note, for him to think you guys left on a good note? So he can think it wasn't a big deal that he fell into a drug habit?
Leave it alone. As far as I can tell, he's the one who left it messy. Not your fault. You're right, he doesn't deserve such respect.
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