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writes:Is it a good decision to go back to an ex?Do you think the same mistakes can be repeated? or Do people really change?I hope u can help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe did not want to marry and have kids,now he says he is ready, he realized how much he misses me, so I am confused, he has always kept in touch and has helped me with $ sometimes, no sex involved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): NO they don't change find someone else
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): We're all supposed to say "yes, people can change" and "everyone deserves a second chance." But do they really?I'm 32 years old. I cannot think of one single person I've known that has ever really changed for the better once they were older than about 13-15. Not about anything deep and important in life. Not in a long time permanent way that they stayed changed from then on.The majority of people I grew up with you could have predicted how they were going to be as 25yo adults by the time they were even younger than 13. At least roughly predicted.I have seen more people change for the worse as adults though. They get beaten and worn down by life. It's sad when it happens.
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reader, Sophia_Sweetheart  +, writes (18 June 2008):
 Hey!
Well I believe everyone deserves second chances. But this depends on what they did in the first place to need a second chance! If he really broke your heart with no remorse and hasn't contacted you at all and it left on bad terms, then it's going to take a lot of working to get this relationship back! Yet, if it was quite an 'easy' break-up, then maybe it's worth a shot?
You've just got to decide whether it's worth the risk, and if you decide it's worth it, take it slow and try not to get too attached too soon! Good luck! =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): Yes people change. But only if they want to. There is nothing you can do to change someone. They have to make that decision
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reader, I'llTryToHelp  +, writes (18 June 2008):
 It depends on the mistakes! Is he cheating? Is he abusing you? Unless the Ex has recognized the mistakes he's made and is actively seeking help to work through it, then no, he won't change!
Most men never go the distance. I'm sorry guys, but it's the truth. According to all the guys I've asked this question of, they say if they really care about a girl, they won't do stupid stuff to mess it up in the first place!
Good Luck!
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