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writes: what are the signs a b/f or g/f cheated while away on vacation without you? My b/f has called me atleast 3 times a day and the times i did call him--most of the time he would pick up even if he was out at some loud bar with friends. He would go outside and speak with me at night sometimes from the bar for 15 minutes so we can talk. He gave me the hotel number as well and said there is no service in the room for a cell but his rommates cell would work so i can call that or the hotel number. 2 nights during the week-he didnt go out to any bars but stayed in and we usually spoke before we went to sleep. Is it showing that he cares about me and trying to assure me nothing will happen? i did exprss my concerns about the bars while away and he said what does everybody else have to do with him..meaning if other are guys are trying to pick up girls or even friends--it does not mean he will. Do you think he sounds sincere or just what any typical guy would say in relationship and away??I'm scared that he cheated or got too "friendly" at the bar or something and lied..I have a hard time believing everything was innocent. Wouldnt anyone else feel this way a little bit?? Help
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reader, twiltan +, writes (19 May 2006):
Hi anonymous.
Firstly i totally understand why you feel nervous about your BF being away with friends. Its completely natural.
However you say he calls you several times a day and picks up when you call.
To me this is a very reassuring sign indeed. It shows that even though he is away he is thinking of you. If he had gone away to 'play around' and wasnt thinking of you, you would be getting no calls from him and unanswered calls to him .
I think he probably knows you are nervous, cares for you and your feelings and is calling lots to try to alleviate your worries. If he is worried about your feelings i very much doubt he is playing away
Hope this helps
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reader, *dreamer* +, writes (19 May 2006):
 hey,
well i am glad that i read this one, because my boyfriend is on holiday too in spain. But unlike you, he doesnt call me, and ive tried to call him, but enough about me.
in answer to your last question, yes i do feel the same way. He sounds like a lovley lad and from what you have said it sounds like he is being faithfull to you, he loves you! and you love him, so let there be a little trust, trust him, and he will trust you back!!!
He is right when he says, just because my friends are doing in doesnt mean he is too. But i do know how you feel, maybe talk to him about it again, or try and get it out of your mind.
your boyfriend is on holiday to have a good time with his friends, not allot of girls, so you safe hun!! Jst as long as you know he loves you, he shouldnt do anything to hurt you.
good look, and e-mail me and let me know what happends
all my luk, love *dreamer* x
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reader, eddie  +, writes (19 May 2006):
 I've been in your shoes. It's uncomfortable. Why do you insist that he must have cheated? I know the getting too friendly feeling too. It drives you crazy to picture him sitting in a bar chatting with some girl. You imagine the tone of the conversation etc. The truth is you really don't know anything for sure. Why don't you think things were innocent. It goes without saying, there WERE attractive women there. You can also assume if he happened to strike up a conversation that he might have enjoyed talking to one of them. Perhaps he found someone interesting etc. Why does that bother you? Would you expect him to sit on a bar stool like a lump of poop? He is a person afterall. WE are supposed to communicate.
I think you're a little insecure here. Maybe you've had experiences in bars where you've done the wrong thing. There will always be temptations out there. EVERYWHERE. Get used to it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2006): If you trust your partner, then I wouldnt be worried at all.
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