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writes:First off you should know, we're young, very young. I am 20 he is 21. We met when i was 17 and he was 18 and we married 1 1/2 years later when I was 18 and he was 19. Things are not easy, we never expected them to be. We love each other, though, and it felt like the right thing to do. Here we are now and our relationship is falling appart. He says he wants space, and if you knew him you would be so surprised. He was always more clingy and touchy than me. I was the one who always asked for space so it doesn't feel right that he asks for it now. We are in the process of moving out this week. He is going to stay with family and I am going to stay with my dad. As of now we are not talking because there has been too much fighting and hurting each other. We both agree, we need time and space, and we hope to work things out in the future. Do you think this is normal for a young married couple to go through? or do you think its beginning of the end?
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reader, theDREAM +, writes (24 March 2009):
theDREAM is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yes. I want to start counseling, but not yet. I feel like we need time for our emotions to kool down right now (if that makes any sense). Then when we can see clearly start working on reparing it. There has been some of the blame game going on, on both sides, but honestly I can admit my faults outloud. Thanks for your advice. It's so nice to hear advice from someone who is neutral. Thanx a bunch.
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reader, BioGal +, writes (24 March 2009):
I think it is different for every couple. It sounds like you are at least trying to work things out before getting divorced. A break is probably a good idea, and even better, would be some counseling. If I were you, I would try to set up one night a week where you two meet for dinner/lunch, whatever, and NOT try to fix your relationship, but to just spend time together. It might sound silly, but it will help you two relax around each other, and maybe even recognize the things you found attractive in each other in the first place. In the meantime, try not to do the "blame game," because family members will only intensify these feelings, and that might make it more difficult to repair your relationship. Good luck!
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