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writes:3 weeks ago my girlfriend and i split, although we were only together 4 3 months we built a very strong relationship and it has taken some getting over. Last night we went out together for a drink which resulted in us heading into town and making a real night of it. Throughout the night we were talking about us and we were both saying that it was right it ended etc, better as friends and who'd we met since and it seemed to me like a "anything you can do i can do better" sort of thing. At the end of the night she ended up kissing some random guy in front of me which made me fly off the handle and my head is now back up my backside where it was when we 1st split. I guess i need advice, i've told her that maybe i wasnt as over it as i thought i was and i know that but i'm really struggling to figure out how to deal with it and its eating me up especially after last night. I had other girls interested and got a couple of numbers but i seem to have lost interest in meeting anyone and i can't figure out why - this has never happened to me before and i'm pretty confused by the whole thing.
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reader, z3r0  +, writes (23 July 2009):
 this happen to me before, i know how you feel you freaked because you still have feelings for her and its a bit to much to see her with another man, she maybe did that to see if you still have feelings for her or if your over it, best thing to do here is not see each other for a while try not talking to her at all and you will get over it and if that doesn,t work try not being friend cause you would just get jealous every time you see her with another man... hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt was a mutual decision really but she re bounded straight into the relationship with me so when we split she seemed not bothered where i was quite the opposite. Sort of can't figure it out - prior to this week we'd been through this really nasty stage for 3 weeks and then now we're back on good speaking terms she texts me all the time and we speak on the phone at least twice a day but is insistant "apparently" that she doesn't want us to get back together and that she doesn't want to be in a relationship however last night told me she was seeing this guy, met his family etc etc - contradicting really. When i said this morn that maybe i was finding harder to get over it than i thought she said "aw those feelings will pass" and not once said she has or did find it tough. To be honest we are such good mates when we get along but i don't know if thats just going to make it harder for me or even what is going on inside her own head - whether she's being very stand offish to protect her own feelings but secretly testing the water to maybe give it another go someone said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2009): she did this to make you jealous..who dumped who? because this is her way of saying look what your missing..and tbh if she has to do that to make herself feel better about the whole thing she really isnt worth it. distance yourself from her and turn off your phone for a few days and give yourself to have a chance to get over it. Go out with your friends so you don't have time to think about her...hope this helps
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