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writes:Hey guys. well iv never had sex but my boyfriend has before and me and him have only made out and stuff like that. Well he wants to try having phone sex, im fine with that. The problem is i have never done that before so i dont really know what to do but he told me he wants me to masterbait well im talking to him. Im self conscious about the way i will sound though because no ones ever heard and i dont know if il be makeing them to much or not enough or if it even sounds right lol. Any advise so i can get over this and do it with him? Im worried it will be awkward and he wont like it. Also if you ever had phone sex or did that over the phone how did it go the first time? Thanks for the help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2010): Me and my boyfriend are both very dirty but it took a while and a lot of conversations to really figure out what each other likes to hear and what turns the other person on, that's part of being in a relationship. We would spend hours texting and talking and sharing a lot of our sexual thoughts and feelings, long before we ever did anything physical which is probably why when we did start doing things it was pretty good ;)The first few times we "sexted" i guess they call it, it was a little weird i wasn't sure what to say and i just kind of followed his lead. But after a while i caught on and it got pretty hot and intense. Phone sex came shortly after that and the first time it was a bit awkward because i wasn't sure what to say again, plus i had another person in my house so i couldn't really just let loose and say what i wanted because i kind of had to keep quiet. I asked him to tell me what he'd do to me if i was there and then i just took off where he left off. I was self conscious about what noises to make too but he loved whatever noise i made and most of the time it was just me breathing into the phone or telling him how good i felt. The point, there is no right or wrong, it's all about experimenting and having fun and doing what feels good. Just tell him how you're touching yourself, and it doesn't have to be in your private areas, run your hands down your neck, brush your fingers over your breast, down your stomach and to your legs, tell him how good it makes you feel, that you wish it was his touch. You can always just let him lead and ask him what he'd do to you, what he wants you to do to him. Create a fantasy and play it out between the two of you. I hope this helps.
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reader, GoGreen126 +, writes (9 May 2010):
My suggestion would be this:1. Say, in explicit detail, everything you two would do during sex. Don't skimp on dirty details, guys love that. 2. If you get turned on, let him know. 3. At first, if you don't want to masturbate for him, don't. You don't have to. Do it when you feel more comfortable! He can wait!4. If you decide that you want to masturbate during the conversation, you can quietly if you aren't ready for him to hear. 5. If you decide to let him hear you masturbating, make whatever sounds you like. If he really cares about you, it'll be really sexy, no matter what.6. He'll like it if you make extra noise. It's not like faking it in real life, you're turning him on more and that's all. No big deal. It's good for him. 7. If you want to hear him masturbate, don't be afraid to ask. 8. If, at any point, you feel really uncomfortable, stop. Phone sex is not for everyone. Personally, I like it because my bf and I can get dirty, even as both virgins. We aren't ready for sex, but phone sex is just words. Best of luck,message me if you have any questions,--GG
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reader, fxyangel_09 +, writes (9 May 2010):
just be yourself and if your boyfriend really cares about you he wont judge you when you do it. pretty much just picture you guys having sex and just say whats happening. you may think that you sound wierd but he will love it. just try to be confident about it and everything will be fine.
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