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writes:Aight so here is the situation. I had a girlfriend (Egyptian Muslim) who I really cared for and loved. Recently her mother died and she has decided that she is going to go through with an arranged marriage because her mom was trying to hook her up with some other. So basically I'm completely and utterly destroyed by this news. She is already engaged and this is absolutely killing me. Some of my friends and family are telling me to fight for her if I really love her, but at the same time, I don't want to make her life any harder, and I don't feel good stealing a woman from another guy. Yes, sure he did the same to me, but it doesn't make it right for me to do the same, right? What do you guys think I should do? Fight or try my best to move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI appreciate all the advice guys. It's hard right now, but I know that it will only get easier as time goes on and with any luck I will meet someone else special. And thank you harleygirl. I might take you up on your offer and PM on those days it gets hard to keep it together. I guess this is life...sometimes you just have to accept you lost and move on :'(
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reader, harleygirl2010 +, writes (18 January 2011):
 your a good man. Especially since you understand that it's her mothers dying wish and respect it and her choice. good luck to you my friend. IF you ever need someone to talk to i have an open ear and you can send me a private message.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for the advice guys. I tried telling her that its her choice, but she says its her dying mother's wish. I told her that I understand, but at the same time, this decision is one that will affect her for the rest of her life. Well, for now I'm just going to have to take care of myself I think. I think I should try to stop thinking about her and try to get my life back on track. She made her choice, and I have to respect that, right?
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reader, harleygirl2010 +, writes (17 January 2011):
That is a hard one. I'm sorry that it happened to you. The only advice i can give is to listen and follow your gut. What does your gut tell you to do? Not your mind or heart, but you gut. Your gut instinct usually won't lead you astray. I have never had someone go through this and this is very hard to think of advice for. I hope that helped and good luck to you.
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reader, dancegirl347 +, writes (17 January 2011):
Let the girl choose. Make her understand that she doesn't have to do it, but also tell her that her life is hers. She should decide who she wants to be with.
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