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writes:*Op's own title*Hi,I am currently in a long term relationship, and until recently it was great, just the normal sort of thing. We would argue like any other couple, but make up quickly and laugh about it after. I was really happy, and after a while we started talking about moving in together and getting engaged, the usual sort of thing when you've been going out for a while. Recently though we have been arguing and awful lot. Afterwards I feel hurt and angry, I don't seem to let it go. He says things that are hurtful to me, but he NEVER apologises or understands how sad I am after he insults me. I can't explain it well I don't think, but he always blames arguments on me- he doesn't get that half the time he starts them. There's more to it than that obviously but it is hard to put into words. Even after we had been going out for a while I felt we had something special- I seriously thought this would be who I would marry. Recently though I have this feeling that something has gone. I can't say what, maybe I am just getting to the end of my tether with the frequent arguments. We don't have sex as much as we used to, because I am constantly hurt by things he has said to me. I feel like this may be just a rough patch, but then a part of me thinks 'Is this coming to an end?'. I'm really asking for help about whether this is should be worked at- can I save this relationship? Or does this sound just like something that is coming to an end? Thanks everyone..
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys, thanks for your answers! We had a MASSIVE argument the other night- I seriously thought it was splitsville for us. However I took your advice! I listened to everything he had to say, and even though it hurt we got a lot off our chest and managed to understand what each other wanted. LonelyTwo your advice was awsome- really helped! Also anonymous- don't worry I know exactly how your feeling, but I'm sure it will work out for you too. I take comfort in the fact that someone out there is in the same boat as me. I wouldn't say my boyfriend and I are 'fixed' so to speak but I definatley think we achieved something. Thanks so much guys, you helped me a lot, take care x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): I feel your pain darling, I am in the exact same situation myself so I can't offer any advice but I am very interested to here others opinions on this as it will help me out too! I know its hard to put it into words as well as give background so people can understand the situation but you did a great job. thanks for posting!
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