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writes: Hi - he takes his stress out on me.When my boyfriend is stressed from work or tired, he won't talk to me. Instead he snaps at me and bites my head off if I try talking to him. He'll spend the whole evening ignoring me - sometimes he won't even look at me. I can cope with it for a short time but when it goes on and on I start to get upset. Then if I get upset, he gets even more stressed and then starts blaming me for making it worse when I all tried to do at the beginning was make it better! As a result, I start to get really down and find it hard to see the positive side of our relationship. Then almost overnight, he's fine again and acts as though everything is fine. Any advice? Reply to this Question |
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reader, lovethat +, writes (27 June 2005):
I was married to someone just like that. He's using you as his whipping boy. He has very low self-esteem and will put you and whoever is around in the same hole as him. As they say "Misery loves company". There is nothing you can do to "make it better" as you've already experienced. HE has to make himself feel better and stop taking it out on you. It's a very selfish way of being. He needs to get counseling. And you might want too also so that you don't blame yourself for not being able to "fix him". This has nothing to do with you. It's a form of emotional abuse and it will wear you down eventually. It's your birth right to be happy! Peace-
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