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writes:Well where to start,I've just turned 18 and I live with my dad, I've got a sister who is 19 and lives with my mum. My mum got a new partner a few months ago and all is going well until this week. My sister's boyfriend and my mums partner had a big argument, because my mums partners thinks that my sisters boyfriend just uses my mum as a door mat all the time.My sister and her boyfriend have been together a long time like 5 years or something and he is a really nice fella, my mums partner is a nice fella too but theres issues with them two.Well my sister has come down for the weekend and has explained to me that mum has chucked her out basically as mums boyfriend and sisters boyfriend kicked off and nearly ended in a fight.Mum and her partner have just moved into a new house and sister went with them as well. My mums partner told my sisters boyfriend to get out and he is never welcome back again. That is how it all started out. But I think the reason why my mum does not say nothing to her boyfriend is that I think she is too scared of loosing the house. My sister thinks she has taken sides and have kind of blocked her out of her life because of a new man has entered her life.I visit my mum at weekends and now it is going to be a uncomftable. When I go up there. He does not pick on me but only picks on my sister and her boyfriend which I think is wrong in a way. Me and my sister get on really well and I get on with her boyfriend as well. My sister is now living with her boyfriends parents for the time being and I told her maybe a option would be to rent out a flat or a one bedroom apartment.Any advice to give my sister? Sorry its a bit longThank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): Well this is a competition and your mum is the centre of it....
Basically - your mums new man is competing with your sister for your mums heart. He see's her as a threat and needs to show he is boss etc. The Man of the family. to impress your mum.....
so its going to be tough on her. There are several ways to fight it. easiest (and most pointless to tell a teenager \ young adult to do) is behave and go along with it. Become the new BFs best friend ....become his allie, work withhim and then he will relax and realise your sister will be able to bring the BF round again.... might take sometime....suggest they just cool the relationship until then....
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