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writes:Hi!I'm dating this guy whom I've just met. He was so wonderful and humourous. Then, recently, his jokes went a bit far like he'd ask me if I feel horny.. I was offended and he laughed it off and said all his friends joke like that. I have this communication problem that I don't know when he is joking. But I like this guy a lot. Am I really unsuitable for him? Because of this, we had an argument and he hasn't called back. How can I get him back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey! :-)Thanks for your answer. I feel so encouraged by your answer. But you know what? I texted him the other day and asked if it's still OK if I ask him how he is doing.. He almost immediately replied.. (Yippee!) But he said he was busy at work. (And his work is super hectic.) He said he'd call yesterday but he didn't.. I don't know if he'll call ever again and if he just doesn't want to call me any more. Or he is really just busy at work and couldn't call. Am I really silly if I wait for him? With him, I never know what tomorrow may bring. I'm thinking why am I so insecure.. ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008): sounds like he is unsuitable for you.
also sounds like you have a very low self-esteem. I noticed how quick you are to blame yourself--"I have this communication problem"--as if you have some kind of deficiency when he's probably the one who needs some improvement.
You shouldn't feel like you need approval from men. Be selective in who you actually like. Don't feel a need to always have a crush on someone.
I guarantee that if you back off and focus on yourself (doing things you like to do, refining yourself, working on your self esteem)in six months you will look back and see what a loser he is.
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