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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:hello I have a situation, I have been with my boyfriend 8 months, he is the best, he is very nice and sweet with me, but he is always very bussy, he always try to make time for me we normally see each other 2-3 times a week, we always try to be 3 times,so we mostly see each other 3 times, I am very bussy also but I have a little bit of a more time than him. I have a great career and a very good job, he is working thruough that, he is going to college and working all the time. Sometimes I miss him, I want to clarify that I am not a needy person, and I understand that he has to work, I am not expecting that I will be his priority, his priority has to be his career, as it is for me mine.My complain about him is that he is a very bad comunicator, it is very hard for him express his feelings, if i tell him I love him, he tells me "me too", if I tell him i miss him, he tells me he miss me too, he only talk to me about his feelings when he feels that I am thinking that he only wants me for sex, he has tell me many times that he doesn't want me just for sex, he say that the sex is wonderfull with me, but if I don't want to do it, he can live with out it. So i do would like him to be more open about his feelings, sometimes I think that he doesn't have any feelings for me, other times I think he does, he is always very worrie about my health because i don't have good health, he remember everything about me, what I like, what I don't like, etc. He sometimes does things that tells me that he loves me, for example he has gave up time with his friends in order to spend time with me, yesterday it was his brother's birthday, and he decided that he was going to come to see me instead of waiting for his brother because he didn't saw me during the whole week. He is also learning my native language.I don't want to be stupid thinking that he loves me when he doesn't, and I don't want to be selfish thinking that he can do more when it is already enough, can someone give me any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, feelsgoodwoman +, writes (26 October 2008):
he probably does love you and realize that most men have a hard time expressing themselves in words. Maybe he's shy or has a hard time putting into words how perfect you are. But actions speak louder than words.
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