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writes:If you have been chatting to someone online that you met on an online dating site. Chatting has gone well for many weeks, but then they accuse you of not being you - that you are someone they know pretending to be this fake person, what would you do? Would you still meet this person? Reply to this Question
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (21 March 2009):
 If he is in the same town as you are, there is no harm in meeting this person, during the day, in a public place, dead center in town, near public transportation (taxi, bus, train).
However, isn't it interesting to know how people think [.e.g. of others behaviour] the way the themselves do [e.g behave]. For instance, in this case maybe he thought you were a "fake" because he does that too (thus think everyone does it too).
Or perhaps, there is a simpler explanation to it. That he's had a bad experience before on dating site(s). It is, easy to be fake online because there is this invisible "screen" or "wall" behind which one can "hide" one's true self.
So if and when you meet this person, just see it as a "learning exercise". Learning about people. Learning how to spot a person and how they "tick" when they say things like "you are a fake" :-) Then afterwards, run to the nearest bus stop! After all, he already accuses you of something before he knows the facts .. God knows what he will do in real life too.
But, if you don't want to do that, that is OK too. Like Jamie below said, there's plenty of good men out there, in the flesh as well as on dating sites. Just don't choose the ones that have beer for breakfast ;-)
Cat
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