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writes:help please, I'm driving myself crazy. i've been with my guy for four years. He made me really happy and i used to believe he was the perfect person for me. However, four years later i'm beginning to doubt us. He's been a perfect gentleman, and a great bf. I know I can trust him completely. But i've just become so bored with him, and I find myself just constantly finding flaws in him, like he's not fit enough, or that his hair is terrible, etc. I've told him how I feel, we've tried taking breaks but then I always miss him and we get back together. He's trying his best, but I still feel like I want him to somehow magically impress me. I'm not sure if how I feel is a result of my boredom/frustration over the lack of change/momentum in my own life, combined with my exposure to my parent's crappy relationship, or if what i'm feeling is that our relationship has run it's course.I'm just so frustrated and feel like I'm going crazy trying to somehow "fix" our relationship!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): AFter four years, it's hard to decide if all relationships get to a point of comfortability that may just be boring after such a long time. The thing to ask yourself, is "Is this as good as it gets?" If it is, you need to decide if that is good enough for the rest of your life. You should be excited about a future together and be certain this is the man you want to spend the rest of ur life with. If you still dont' know, or find that his quirks are no longer cute , and the things you used to love, you now hate, then reevaluate how much you still love him. Relationships either grow together, or grow apart. There will be a point where you will realize enough is enough when it is time. Think and act carefully and you will make the right decision. Go with your gut.
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (11 February 2009):
 Ok well I suggest that you start trying to go off on like weekend getaways together maybe one weekend have him plan something romantic it will put the flame back in the relationship... Dont give up on it if you miss him when he isnt with you and you keep going back together chances are this is something you can rekindle .I always tell people this because I failed to do it as did my ex till it was to late then we tried but found ourselves as friends going through a divorce.Dont do that to yourself or your man .give this a try and you might be shocked at how you will grow back together and it will be stronger then ever..........
GOOD LUCKXXXXXXX
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